Lol yeah, that’s it. Damn autocorrect

So I just saw this on hacker news https://hostingyourgif.live/ Might be of interest

That name is a mouthful.

I was having this same issue and ended up switching to schildichat. Change the theme and it’s element. But with notifications.

I’ve been using Poste.io for about 2 years on a vps from Netcup. It has caldav/carddav built in. I also use Radicale and Baikal for caldav/carddav.